Building postive parent - school relationships

 Benefits of a strong parent-school relationship


Key points

  • When parents and teachers have strong relationships, children get many academic and social benefits.
  • Building a relationship with your child’s school is about getting to know and being involved in your child’s school.

Benefits of a strong parent-school relationship

As a parent, you know your child better than anyone else does. Your child’s teachers will want to get to know him too.

When you have a strong and respectful relationship with your child’s school and teachers, you’re in a good position to give them the information they need to help your child get the most out of his education. You and your child’s teachers can work together to support your child’s learning and wellbeing.

When everybody is working together in the best interests of your child, she’s likely to reap academic and social benefits, like:

  • regular school attendance
  • positive school results
  • a positive attitude towards school
  • positive social and relationship skills
  • a sense of wellbeing
  • school completion
  • positive progression into secondary education .

You can help your child get the most out of school by communicating and building relationships with teachers, other parents and students from the very first day. This is better than having contact with your child’s school only when there’s a problem, either at school or in your family.

How to build a strong parent-school relationship

You can build a parent-school relationship in several ways:

  • Be involved in the school community in whatever ways you can.
  • Talk informally with teachers at school pick-up times
  • Go to ‘meet the teacher’ events and ‘Learning walks in your child’s class after school’
  • Go to parent-teacher consultations and informal parent workshops/meetings.
  • Check the diary dates on the school website, noticeboard and emails regularly.

As well as everyday contact, you might also be able to learn more about the school through its website, newsletters, school performances and PTA events – for example, bingo and school fayres.

Establishing a relationship with your child’s teacher is a two-way process. For example, you can ask the school and teachers for information or feedback. You can also share your child’s special events or achievements outside school.

Not all parents can be involved in school as much as they’d like, but you can still let your child know that school is important to your family. Talking about school with your child, being warm and friendly at school events, and being positive about the school and its staff sends the message that you value education and are interested in what’s happening for your child at school.

All parents will have a different relationship with the school and teachers. This relationship isn’t just about direct contact with the us, but also includes relationships with other parents, your child’s friends and teachers. The parent-school relationship might change as your child gets older, or when things change at work or at home.

Parent-teacher consultations

Parent-teacher interviews at primary school are one of the main ways that many parents find out how their child’s education is going. Interviews can be a great way of getting you and the teacher talking together.

Discuss the outcomes of your meeting with your child. By including your child, you’re helping him negotiate learning tasks and get involved in monitoring and reflecting on his achievements, progress and goals.

You don’t have to wait for a parent-teacher interview, especially if you need to talk about something that affects your child’s wellbeing. For example, it’s important for the teacher and school to know if your child has a health condition, if you’re concerned about bullying, or if there has been a change in your family, like a death, separation or divorce. Speak to the teacher after school or contact them through our school’s usual contact details.

Getting involved at Whiston Junior and Infant School

There are often lots of opportunities you can get involved at Whiston, by:

  • volunteering – for example, becoming a reading buddy – training is given
  • working on school fundraisers and events – for example, school fayres and raffles
  • developing or supporting social activities with other parents and families, including fundraising
  • attending events like assemblies, concerts and Book Week learning together sessions.

Changing relationships as your child grows

Most parents will be familiar with the ‘you’re embarrassing me’ stage, even if their child hasn’t reached it yet.

Your child will start developing more independence, which might change the way you communicate with each other. These changes might also affect the way you communicate and connect with your child’s school. Your child might be able to take more responsibility for communicating with her teachers.

But you can still have a relationship with your child’s school that fits around your child’s changing social needs. Even if you have less physical involvement with the school, one of the best ways to continue helping your child is to create a supportive environment for education at home – an environment that values education.

This might involve simply talking about schoolwork together, discussing your child’s career plans and ambitions, or talking through the links between your child’s schoolwork and his future goals.

See below internet links and posters for individualised support materials and signposting links, including: dealing with behaviour; supporting your child’s mental health and physical well-being, plus support on safeguarding your child.

Take a look at the resources below to support parents

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Take a look at the internet sites below to support parents

External Link Icon Change4Life Recipes
Developing a healthier lifestyle
External Link Icon Young Minds
Supportin childr mental health
External Link Icon NSPCC
Keeping children safe
External Link Icon Change4Life
Developing a healthier lifestyle
External Link Icon NSPCC: PANTS RULE
Keeping children safe
External Link Icon CAMHS
Rotherham's Child and adolescent mental health service
External Link Icon BBC
Helping parents with school matters
External Link Icon Educate Against Hate
Advice for parents: Prevent Agenda
External Link Icon mental health .
Support children's well-being
External Link Icon BBC Learn and revise
Helping your child get ahead
External Link Icon Rotherham Parent Support Group
Supporting children with mental health needs
External Link Icon Rotherham Adult Support Group
Supporting adults with mental health needs